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The Gear That Every Kink Needs

Whether you are new or experienced in the BDSM scene, it is always a good idea to change up your BDSM gear and toys. We have chosen our picks to add to the bedroom or dungeon, or wherever you like to play. Always do your research before introducing new gear in the bedroom. Negotiation and consent are important when introducing a new toy with a partner. Always agree on a safe word. BDSM can only be truly enjoyed when you feel safe and ready to give yourself to the experience. See below a list of toys that should be in every kinksters toybox.


Blindfolds

One of the easiest items to get your hands on and a good item to introduce in the bedroom. Every dom should have a blindfold or at least something that can be used for sensory deprivation. This is the perfect garment for power play and will always leave your playmate wanting more.


Fetish Clothing

To change things up effortlessly, get a new outfit. From leather, PVC, lace to chains. From full suits, corsets, crotchless lingerie and role play, nothing is left to the imagination. You can get your hands on almost any outfit you desire. One night your master may want you as a nurse or a maid or they may not want you in anything. Experiment with clothes, it's fun.

mistress dom in leather holding whip

Wands & Vibrators

The magic wand or the rabbit, are all great toys for extra stimulation. Choosing a toy with different vibrating strengths; from a low rumble to intense, pounding sensations will sure be a satisfying experience. In a sub dom relationship, wands can be tied to a sub’s genitals, giving the sub stimulation and the dom pleasure from the power. Vibrations, thrusting; find the toy that caters to your needs and start playing!


Dildos

Different sizes, shapes, colours and textures to suit everyone. Have hot, penetrating sex like never before with a dildo of your choosing. The dildo has many uses. It can be used on yourself during masturbation, a mistress can attach it to a harness and use it to peg a sub or a sub can be forced to use it on a dom. Dildos can be used for vaginal and anal penetration, but remember to always use lube.


Bondage Tape

Bondage tape is perfect for beginners. It’s a strong tape that only sticks to itself, the use of this tape is limitless. It’s easier than rope, you won’t have to learn different knots and will give you more time in the bedroom. Tape can be used to gag a sub’s mouth shut, across the eyes, taping the hands together and taping legs.

whisper lady in mask

Handcuffs

Handcuffs are a less complicated solution if you are ready to try out bondage. They can be locked around wrists and sub’s can be connected to bed frames, tables, chairs - anything you want. Handcuffs are there to keep your submissive in place so the dom can do whatever they please. Always remember where you put the key before getting steamy.


Rope

Whether you want it for tying limbs together, tying to furniture, like a whip or used as a hoist, a rope is versatile. Practice makes perfect, being good at knots takes time but once perfected, it's an experience like no other. To ensure safety whilst using rope, it needs to be checked for damage before every use. Also, make sure the rope isn’t cutting off the sub’s circulation. Always remember your safe word when using rope and keep scissors close by.


Whips

In the BDSM world, whips can refer to crops, paddles and floggers; a great tool to include in impact play. Floggers have a sturdy handle with tails of leather, crops are like the ones that are used on horses and paddles are flat and are commonly made of wood or leather. These items are used on the bum or thighs. To ensure safe play, always use a safe word. Each item gives the sub a different sensation, do your research and choose one that suits your relationship.

woman preparing to dominate

Swings & Benches

To level up your bedroom or sex dungeon, add a spanking sex bench or an anti-gravity chair for easy access. Subs can be tied to the bench in a bent-over position, ideal for a spanking or a penetration session. Swings are a good way to change up positions fast. The sub goes in the swing while the dom has full control of what they want to do and when. Experiment to see what suits your relationship.


Electroplay

A sensational experience like no other. From electroshock pinwheels to electro anal beads, electricity puts the spark in the bedroom. Whether it is for masturbation or for a master to use on the sub, there is a range of toys out there. Direct electro stimulation across the subs body using a taser or toys used with control, satisfyingly strong orgasms are guaranteed.


That’s our list of top 10 toys that we think every kink should have in their toy box. It’s good to mix up and include new toys and gear in the bedroom to keep the sub dom relationship alive. Hopefully, we have inspired you to try something new or bring back a toy that you haven’t used in a while. Happy playing!

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